03 Aug
Running the Race: Quitting Porn Is a Marathon, Not A Sprint
Customer story: Jordan shares how getting caught, grace, and daily accountability helped him keep running the race toward freedom from porn, even after relapse.
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14 Jul
The Ambition of Shame: How High-Achieving Men Use Success and Porn to Escape the Same Wound
Guest post by Sean Brennan, a board-certified Christian counselor (AACC) and certified Pastoral Sexual Addiction Professional (PSAP) with a master's degree in pastoral counseling. Read more about his …
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27 May
From FBI Agent to Faith-Based Counselor: What One Man Learned About Porn Addiction, Shame, and Healing
Guest post interview with Sean Brennan and Julia Daniels Sean Brennan spent 35 years serving his country — 20 as an FBI agent, with additional years in the Army, including deployments to war zones wit…
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14 May
Why A Momentum Mindset Shift Is Essential for Men Rebuilding Sexual Integrity
Guest post by Daniel Grossman, Board-Certified Master Coach and Cognitive Behavioral Coach Many men feel trapped in a cycle of shame tied to pornography. It feels suffocating—like being stuck in the s…
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06 May
Josh’s Story: How an Award-Winning Porn Star Found Hope
Joshua Broome was once one of the most famous porn stars in the world. Just five years into his career, Josh starred in over 1,000 adult films, was named Top Adult Male Performer of the Year, and earn…
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22 Apr
Beyond the Filter: Choices That Lead To Recovery, Empathy, and Rebuilding Trust
Guest post by Coach Ajay Reporting Relapse Is An Act of Bravery The Honor Paradox: When Family Honor Becomes a Barrier to Recovery Empathy Is A Muscle, Not Just A Feeling Why Peer Accountability May F…
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15 Apr
Build Your Dam Upstream: Recovery Tips for Sexual Addiction and Compulsive Behavior
Guest post by Marsha Means, MA (reshared and lightly edited from the original post with the author's permission). A survivor's story of healing from childhood sexual abuse and regaining healthy sobrie…
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19 May
Secrecy vs. Privacy in Recovery: What Betrayed Partners Desperately Need to Know
“My partner said it was ‘just privacy.’ But what he really meant was secrecy—and that destroyed everything.” When trust is shattered by pornography addiction, partners often find themselves questionin…
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29 Jan
Does Porn Cause Anxiety and Impact Mental Health?
If you struggle with anxiety and you also watch porn, have you seriously considered that pornography use could be contributing to the problem? In a recent National Library of Medicine article research…
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16 Jan
How to Stop Masturbating for Good: 9 Proven Steps
The pleasures of masturbation can often feel too great to give up. But, masturbation has the potential to develop into a compulsive habit tied to pornography. You may be wondering how to quit masturba…
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21 Nov
Is watching porn cheating?
Lots of people secretly wonder - is watching porn cheating? (Just check Google’s search 1+ billion search results). Surprisingly, 44% of U.S. adults recently surveyed by Barna believe watching porn ha…
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19 Nov
How to recover from porn addiction and start loving your life again
If you’re here looking for porn addiction help, you’ve taken a powerful positive step. “Healing is within reach,” promises Terry Crews, who recently posted publicly celebrating his 14 year anniversary…
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06 Nov
Sam Jolman, author interview: “Porn is where the lover goes to die.”
We're honored to share our interview with author and therapist, Sam Jolman, who recently published his book for men: The Sex Talk You Never Got Sam answers the question "why men watch porn", addressin…
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25 Oct
Canopy vs. Covenant Eyes: Which Porn Blocker Is Better?
So you’re thinking of installing a porn blocker? That's great! Porn-blocking apps make it MUCH harder to view porn impulsively, and in recent years, many users have successfully quit porn altogether w…
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21 Oct
How much porn is an addiction (and steps you can take to quit porn)
If you’re searching for answers to questions like “How much porn is an addiction,” chances are something feels off in your life. Or, you may be seeking answers for someone you love. You’re not alone! …
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17 Oct
Why Am I Addicted to Porn? Understanding the Root Causes and Breaking the Cycle
So you’ve done it again. After promising yourself time and time again that you’d quit porn for good, a tiny lapse somehow leads your eyes down a path you just can’t seem to escape. You might even be k…
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11 Oct
How To Help Someone with A Porn Addiction: A Compassionate Guide
Has someone just opened up to you about their porn problem? Or maybe you’ve noticed a loved one struggling with an unhealthy amount of porn? Whatever the case, one of the most loving things you can do…
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09 Oct
10 potential porn addiction signs you need to consider
Are you frustrated because you can’t make it past a monthly or weekly streak – or even a daily dose of porn? Perhaps it’s time to ask yourself what porn addiction signs you should take seriously. Is a…
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19 Sep
Choosing An Accountability Partner – Pitfalls and Benefits (Faith and Sex book excerpt)
Shared by permission: The following is an excerpt from Faith and Sex: Toward a Better Understanding of Recovery, Being, Relationship, and God by Steven A. Luff, M.Div, MA. Luff is a Licensed Marriage …
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10 Jun
The Sex Talk You Never Got – rebuilding healthy sexuality
they speak in proverbial locker-room talk or dirty jokes. *And that lack of healthy conversation* becomes an embodied ache or frustration we carry within our sexuality.” ~ Sam Jolman Therapist and aut…
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24 May
Is Porn Use and Depression Linked?
Sources like Medical News Today boldly state: “There is currently no large-scale, conclusive evidence to support the idea that pornography use causes depression or that people with depression are more…
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29 Apr
Online Accountability Success Story From A Life and Mental Health Coach
I first started on my journey of recovery in 2010. My life was misery, living in the dark, with a lot of self loathing that just kind of paralyzed me. Paralyzed by self-loathing: how porn affected Eri…
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26 Mar
How the son of a pastor secretly addicted to porn found hope
I discovered pornography at a pretty young age, like many other guys. In fact, I was first exposed to it through a classmate at my Christian school ironically enough – in 6th grade. I didn't even real…
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06 Mar
6 Signs of a Pornographic Style of Relating
Guest repost from Dr. Andrew Bauman, LMHC, author and co-founder of the Christian Counseling Center. His passion is to:“work with both individuals and couples in crisis, those impacted by unwanted sex…
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16 Feb
How Quitting Porn Helped My Marriage (before it even started)
Marriage is hard. Can I get an amen? I’m Ken Anderson, a fellow porn fighter. I’d like to share with you why quitting porn helped my marriage - before it even started. Why listen to me? Thankfully, I’…
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05 Jan
Introducing Ascend: an accessible online porn recovery program
Could your mindset be holding you back on your porn recovery journey? Here's some food for thought. Consider how life coaching has evolved into a massive billion dollar industry in the past five years…
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30 Nov
How to use SnapChat safely – a guide for parents
Any social media app with private messaging poses a serious risk to teens for exposure to p\rn, predators, and sextortion - as recently highlighted in The Wall Street Journal*. Law enforcement officer…
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17 Nov
Holiday stress and porn triggers: 7 ways to cope
As the holiday season approaches, we need to acknowledge something uncomfortable. Many of us are not okay. We’re anxious, stressed, and grieving. According to Reuters, an estimated 9.9 million America…
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30 Oct
How to Help Your Partner with Recurring Porn Slip-Ups: A Guide for Accountability Partners
“Please help! I’ve had a major slip-up, and I’ve been watching porn again!” Your friend Jamie (fictional name) has just reached out. Now what do you do? Your hidden hero role as an accountability part…
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14 Sep
Trust and accountability: steps to becoming who you want to be
A 2022 Pew Research study notes: “Today, two-in-ten Americans say they trust the government in Washington to do what is right just about always (2%) or most of the time (19%).” A max trust factor of 1…
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24 Aug
Healing from Betrayal – Melissa’s Story
Betrayal is one of the deepest wounds I’ve had to heal from as the wife of a former porn and sex addict. I met my husband when we were teenagers. I thought he was the answer to my prayers. He was thou…
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27 Jul
Battling With Pornography As A Christian Teen: Amu’s Story
In the name of sexual freedom, some people say porn is sex positive. But that’s not how Amu experienced pornography when it took hold of her life in her pre-teen years. Breaking the Bondage of Porn: A…
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12 Jul
10 Powerful Benefits of Accountability (how to enjoy them today)
Are you questioning the benefits of accountability as you fight your personal battle against porn? Asking for help with a porn habit is often a tough first step. Or, porn may have wrecked your life so…
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14 Jun
Father of 8 finds freedom from porn: a healing journey
We're so grateful for customers who are willing to share their stories to help others on their journey to freedom from porn! Here's one especially for fathers. (Trigger warning for those in recovery f…
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08 Jun
Is Spotify safe for kids (or even adults)?
Many of us enjoy vibing daily to our Spotify playlists. But, is Spotify safe for anyone struggling with porn use? As parents and valued customers, you deserve to know the hidden facts about Spotify. I…
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16 Feb
I asked ChatGPT how to stop compulsive porn use…
I asked ChatGPT how to stop compulsive porn use. Its answer was crazy good. So good, in fact, that I wanted to share that "conversation" with you. The six key points are direct quotes from ChatGPT wit…
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11 Oct
iOS User’s Guide to Ever Accountable for Busy People
Have you tried other accountability apps only to find out they just don’t work the way you want on Apple? We get a fair amount of customer support questions like this: “Hey, does Ever Accountable ACTU…
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11 Oct
Android User’s Guide to Ever Accountable for Busy People
Welcome! We’re grateful and excited that you’re here. You’ve chosen to protect yourself and those you love from pornography in a time-tested way – accountability to another person. Even if you’re not …
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16 Aug
Porn Industry Secrets — what they don’t want you to know
Is legal sex work actually safe and empowering for both porn actors and viewers? So we’re told. But there are porn industry secrets you should know. Underneath the glamor, there’s a dark, upside-down,…
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16 Apr
How To Be A Good Accountability Partner – 6 Actionable Steps
Excess of any kind - alcohol, drugs, porn, or sex - can be very harmful to a person's physical and mental health. When left unaddressed, these can also lead to long-term problems that hijack personal …
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29 Mar
Children’s Early Exposure To Porn: What You Need To Know
Children are suffering from the effects of early sexualization. One major culprit is early exposure to porn. Usually this is due to initial accidental exposure. In this article we refer to a variety o…
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15 Mar
Porn and Sexual Violence: A Relationship With Consequences
(Please note that this article could be triggering to those recovering from pornography. However, for the sake of domestic violence and sexual abuse victims, we feel this is a needed topic.) We believ…
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20 Feb
4 Ways to Quit Porn: Using Your Body Plus Mindfulness
I was addicted to porn for decades. I went the standard route to quit porn for years (decades, really) by going to a traditional therapist, 12 step meetings, and medication. I tried everything to stop…
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30 Jan
The Best Ways To Battle Pornography Use
So many express shame and guilt over porn use. You may feel absolutely stuck in that pattern. However, we've seen others battle porn successfully. "It IS possible!" says Amu, a successful and passiona…
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23 Jan
Porn Vs. Prostitution: A Fine Line
Maybe you’re saying, No way. Not going to talk about this topic. Watching porn doesn’t begin to compare with hiring a prostitute. That’s okay. You can click past this article. But if you’re wondering …
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08 Jan
How To Talk To Your Husband (Or Wife) About Porn
Wondering how to talk to your partner about porn? If having a conversation about porn with your spouse or potential partner feels awkward and difficult, you’re not alone. If you’re a millennial or you…
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27 Dec
Porn Stats: Surprising Facts You Should Know
These eye-opening porn statistics reveal the true scope of an industry reshaping childhood, relationships, and culture. Updated in July 2026, we verified data from primary sources like NCMEC, IWF, and…
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11 Dec
Non-Sexual Intimacy: 50 Ways To Enjoy Intimacy Without Sex
When you think of the most desirable, intimate moments in life, what comes to mind? If your mind leaps straight to sex, that’s understandable. After all, we’re bombarded by sexual messages and innuend…
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28 Nov
How To Create Age-Appropriate Android Phone Restrictions
“How do you make your phone and other tech safe for your kids?” This is a frequently asked question in parenting circles. When this topic comes up among my friends, I understand the frustration and an…
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15 Nov
What is Self Accountability and How to Get Started
Imagine looking back at that moment you decided things were going to be different and you’d experience freedom from pornography. Do you see yourself wondering then how on earth you’d get from point A …
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07 Nov
The Ultimate Guide To Books On Porn Addiction and Recovery
An ancient wisdom proverb says, “How good is a timely word!” When you’re seeking answers to life’s problems, you know there’s someone who has walked a similar path before you. And you’d like to pick t…
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07 Oct
Does Porn Cause Erectile Dysfunction?
Our sex-positive culture likes to tell us that porn increases sexual enjoyment. Sadly, the science says otherwise.
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22 Aug
Porn and Marriage — What You Don’t Know Can Hurt You
Porn and marriage don’t make a good partnership. Whether used infrequently or compulsively, porn can have a devastating effect on both partners. https://youtu.be/54xco7Z5Xb0?si=S3yONMEdfqyPVEep Table …
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15 Aug
How To Overcome Porn Withdrawal
In everyday life, we use the word “addicted” often -- probably more than we realize. Think about it. Everyone’s got an addiction: coffee, gardening, movies, motorcycles, sugar, chocolate. (Hey, don’t …
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20 Jul
KLZ Radio Interview “Rush to Reason” Porn and Accountability
Recently Tyler Patterson, founder of Ever Accountable, was interviewed by John Rush’s “Rush to Reason” of KLZ radio based in Denver, Colorado to chat about porn and accountability. We're sharing this …
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15 Jul
Sex Trafficking and Porn in the U.S. — What You Should Know and How You Can Help
How many of us think that porn industry sex trafficking is a foreign problem in a faraway place or another continent -- like perhaps Eastern Europe, Africa, or Asia? Not long ago I had the same idea t…
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03 Jun
How to Deal With Feelings of Guilt and Shame After Watching Porn
Maybe you’ve been caught red-handed in your porn habit, and shame has sent you into hiding. You know you’re guilty as charged. You WANT to quit porn. But guilt’s evil twin shame sends you running righ…
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01 Jan
7 Secrets to Make your New Year’s Resolution to Quit Porn a Success
The long-running jokes about failing on New Year's resolutions are getting a bit old, don't you think? According to studies, only nine percent of resolutioners actually succeed in their goals, and a f…
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02 Dec
Up Your Dating Game by Avoiding Pornography
You feel lonely, when you let yourself feel, and you sometimes think you'll never find the perfect girlfriend you've been fantasizing about since you were a kid. Maybe you're a man who struggles "with…
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24 Nov
Avoiding Pornography When You’re Far From Home
I recently had an enlightening conversation with \John, an athletic trainer for a local junior college football team. He opened up about his battle with pornography. Also he shared with me a few helpf…
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22 Oct
What to Watch Instead of Porn: The Awesomeness List of 101 Healthy Alternatives
You're doing your best. You've known for a while that pornography has become a problem in your life. You're seeing how often you get triggered, and how integral porn has become as a way to escape or n…
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25 Jul
Adam Savage: Talking to My Kids about Sex in the Internet Age
Everyone knows that the internet has made information easily accessible, especially when it comes to pornography. Perhaps the most unsettling consequence of readily available pornography online is how…
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18 Jul
How Pornography Affects Your Brain [is porn good for you?]
Pornography addiction is much more involved than just wanting to look at nude videos and pictures. It has a deep connection to our learning process and the chemicals in our brain. Your brain on porn i…
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21 Jun
Pornography & Gaming
Pornography and gaming are, of course, two very different subjects. Ever Accountable - as always - advocates the dangers of pornography (not video games). Today, however, we would like to look closely…
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14 Jun
How Pornography Affects Teenagers and Children
Despite many of our popular beliefs, the internet is not a safe place for our children to be roaming around. Pornography and predators seem to be lurking everywhere, just waiting to hook your child in…
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07 Jun
Blockading Pornography Rituals
In a previous post we discussed triggers, which are catalysts that create a desire to look at pornography. We looked to the expertise of Rob Weiss, who says that common triggers are "boredom, anxiety,…
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24 May
The Link Between Pornography and Human Trafficking
Human trafficking is one of the biggest travesties that still exists in our world today. It is literally modern day slavery. Sex trafficking (a subset of human trafficking) is the fastest growing crim…
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20 Feb
Ever Accountable Customer Stories: Tim’s Journey
At Ever Accountable we love receiving feedback from our customers. Sometimes they leave us such positive reviews that we become curious about their stories and how our app has helped them. Today we ta…
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07 Jan
How a Parent's Pornography Consumption Affects their Children
We have all heard about or experienced the devastating impact pornography has on individuals, but its fallout on entire family groups is alarming. Researchers completed a major study of pornography, c…
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14 May
Ever Accountable Works (…and it works fast!)
"Knowing that my accountability partner (my wife) will receive a report of my online activity removes nearly all temptation. It has made a tremendous difference in our relationship." We hear comments …
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13 Aug
Are You a Dad Who Uses Pornography? (Part Two)
(Part 1 is here) In last week's post, we discussed ways to open a conversation with your child/teenager about pornography, how to make a game plan for situations that they may face, and things you can…
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06 Aug
Are You a Dad Who Uses Pornography? (Part One)
"He got started on pornography when he found his dad's stash. He was 8 years old at the time." A religious leader related this story to me (without revealing any personal information) with tears in hi…
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11 Oct
Why Pornography Thrives on Phones
My phone never leaves me. And, I mean never. Whether I'm ten miles into the backcountry on a hiking excursion, at the mall, at work, in the bathroom, sleeping , my phone is my constant companion. Ma…
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